The Gottman Method
Practical tools for friendship, conflict, and shared meaning.
Couples therapy
Couples therapy for reconnecting, repairing, and understanding each other
A steady space for partners to slow down, listen, and find new ways through conflict, distance, or change, at any stage of a relationship.
Overview
What couples therapy at Repose is
Couples therapy helps partners understand the patterns between them. Your therapist supports both of you equally and helps you notice what happens in your bodies during conflict. Approaches include the Gottman Method, Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT), and somatic tools.
The relationship itself is the focus. Nobody is the "identified patient," and nobody is there to take sides.
What we help with
What couples bring to therapy
Couples come to Repose for communication struggles, recurring arguments, trust after a rupture, intimacy concerns, and big transitions like moving in, marriage, or becoming parents. We also offer premarital counseling, discernment counseling, and support for separating with care.
We work with couples of every orientation, gender identity, and relationship structure, including mixed-culture relationships and blended families.
Common concerns
- Communication
- Conflict
- Trust
- Intimacy
- Premarital
- Discernment
- Parenting stress
- Transitions
Who this is for
For partners who want to understand each other better
Couples therapy can help whether you are in crisis, feeling distant, or wanting to strengthen something that already works. Both partners do not need to feel equally ready. A consultation can help you decide how to begin.
In person in Manhattan and Westchester, or online.
Both nervous systems
Conflict is felt in the body. So is connection.
We help you notice both, and choose what comes next.
Schedule a consultationHow we work
Approaches we draw from
Emotionally Focused Therapy
Understanding the emotional needs beneath recurring arguments.
Somatic tools
Noticing and calming stress responses during hard conversations.
Your role
What couples therapy asks of you
Show up curious
Try to understand, not only to be understood.
Practice at home
Short exercises between sessions help new patterns stick.
Be honest about goals
Including uncertainty. Every goal is welcome in the room.
What to expect
Preparation
A consultation, then an assessment of your relationship's strengths and stuck points.
Process
Weekly or biweekly sessions focused on patterns and new skills.
Integration
Using new tools during real conversations at home.
Ongoing
Reviewing progress together and planning next steps.
Questions people ask
Questions about couples therapy
Can we use insurance for couples therapy?
No. Repose does not bill insurance for couples or family therapy, because insurance requires one person to carry a diagnosis. Couples sessions are self-pay, and all couples sign a consent to opt out of insurance. See our Insurance and Fees page.
How often will we meet?
Most couples meet weekly or every other week. Many find that working together for at least a few months helps patterns become clear.
What if my partner is unsure about therapy?
That is common. A consultation can be a low-pressure first step, and some people begin with individual sessions.
Do you work with non-traditional relationships?
Yes. We work with queer, trans, non-monogamous, and polyamorous relationships, mixed-race and mixed-nationality couples, second marriages, and blended families.
Begin
When you're ready, we'd be glad to talk it through.
A free consultation can help you both decide how to begin.
Schedule a consultationUnion Square · Pleasantville · Online in NY, NJ & CT