Repose Library

A Curated Selection of our Therapists’ Recommended Reading to Enrich Your Journey

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Emotional Vampires: Dealing with People Who Drain You Dry by Albert Bernstein Ph.D.

Best-selling author Albert J. Bernstein helped thousands of people deal with the dangerously stupid at work in Dinosaur Brains. In Emotional Vampires he goes even further to protect unsuspecting mortals from more devious and harmful creatures vampires ready to bite, suck, and kill the emotional and psychological wellbeing of their victims. Like the fabled demons, these vampires come in many shapes: -The living dead who think their talents” place them above the laws of nature -Lords of darkness with huge egos and tiny consciences -Scary monsters who use their tempers in the same way terrorists use bombs -Blood-suckers who think others were created for their convenience Emotional Vampires tells readers how to spot a vampire in their lives, which defense strategies to employ to prevent one from striking, and what to do if and when they find themselves under attack.

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Empowered Boundaries by Cristien Storm

From saying no to a boss who always asks you to work late, to setting a boundary with a loved one, to navigating an uncomfortable situation at the bus stop, Cristien Storm offers a new approach to verbal boundary setting that is accessible for all bodies and identities. Practical in scope, the book includes tools, tips, and strategies from Storm's decades of experience leading boundary-setting workshops. Grounded in resiliency and trauma-informed theory, Storm pays particular attention to the experiences of women, people of color, immigrants, and LQBTQI-identified people, making this necessary reading for anyone looking to create healthier relationships and build stronger communities.

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Motherless Mothers by Hope Edelman

In Motherless Mothers, Edelman uses her own story as a prism to reveal the unique anxieties and desires that these women experience as they raise their children without the help of a living maternal guide. In an impeccably researched, luminously written book enriched by the voices of the mothers themselves—and filled with practical insight and advice from experienced professionals—she examines their parenting choices, their triumphs, and their fears, and offers motherless mothers the guidance and support they want and need.

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Dying of Embarrassment by Barbara Markway, C. Alec Pollard, Teresa Flynn, Cheryl N Carmin

Americans struggle with anxiety. Among the disorder's most common forms is social phobia, a persistent fear of scrutiny and evaluation by others. Social phobia cripples the lives of some 15 to 20 percent of the US population. This distressing social anxiety includes the fear of public speaking (stage fright), performing in social and creative situations (test anxiety, writers' block), eating in restaurants, and dating. If you suffer from the symptoms of social anxiety disorder, this book offers clinically proven strategies to overcome them and start living a life of confidence.

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Disarming the Narcissist by Wendy Behary

Disarming the Narcissist, Second Edition, will show you how to move past the narcissist's defenses using compassionate, empathetic communication. You'll learn how narcissists view the world, how to navigate their coping styles, and why, oftentimes, it's sad and lonely being a narcissist. By learning to anticipate and avoid certain hot-button issues, you'll be able to relate to narcissists without triggering aggression. By validating some common narcissistic concerns, you'll also find out how to be heard in conversation with a narcissist.

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Dim Sum, Bagels, and Grits: A Sourcebook for Multicultural Families by Myra Alperson

How many times do you celebrate the New Year at home? Just once? If your family is Jewish, Chinese, and a few other things besides, you might celebrate twice or even three times a year! As the rate of cross-cultural adoption grows in the United States, new traditions are emerging. These are part of a new multiculturalism which, with its attendant joys and challenges, has become a fact of life in urban, suburban and even rural America. Alperson's sourcebook offers families the first complete guide to the tangled questions that surround this important phenomenon. As the adoptive Jewish mother of Sadie, her Chinese-born daughter, Alperson is able to offer personal as well as professional insight into such topics as combining cultures in the home, confronting prejudice, and developing role models. Focusing on adoptive families - international and transracial adoption in the United States has jumped in recent years - she provides guidelines on how families can prepare for their exciting journey toward becoming a multicultural family.

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Difficult Conversations by Douglas stone, Bruce Patton, Sheila Heen

This book helps individuals learn ways to navigate challenging conversations with peers, romantic partners, colleagues, and/or family members. It provides insight on ways to better understand the underlying structure of difficult conversations, to start conversations without defensiveness, to listen for the meaning of what is not said, stay balanced while/if being accused, and to find a balance between acknowledging emotions and problem solving.

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Diagonally-Parked in a Parallel Universe: Working Through Social Anxiety by Signe Dayoff

This new and improved Diagonally Parked in a Parallel Universe 2nd Ed. is designed to meet the fundamental needs of social phobics. Written with humor by a psychologist and ex-social phobic, this book is based upon years of interviews with sufferers and clinical researchers. It provides systematic and clinically-proven methods for successfully coping with both social anxiety and related life problems.

It is the insider s scoop and life-strategy approach to social phobics, the shy, self-conscious, and introverted, for alleviating their pain, achieving their many goals, and effectively working toward their potential in all aspects of their lives.

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The Art of Waiting by Belle Boggs

In that heartbreaking essay, Boggs eloquently recounts her realization that she might never be able to conceive. She searches the apparently fertile world around her--the emergence of thirteen-year cicadas, the birth of eaglets near her rural home, and an unusual gorilla pregnancy at a local zoo--for signs that she is not alone. Boggs also explores other aspects of fertility and infertility: the way longing for a child plays out in the classic Coen brothers film Raising Arizona; the depiction of childlessness in literature, from Macbeth to Who's Afraid of Virginia Woolf?; the financial and legal complications that accompany alternative means of family making; the private and public expressions of iconic writers grappling with motherhood and fertility. She reports, with great empathy, complex stories of couples who adopted domestically and from overseas, LGBT couples considering assisted reproduction and surrogacy, and women and men reflecting on childless or child-free lives.

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Coming Out of Shame by Gershon Kaufman Ph.D. & Lev Raphael Ph.D.

In Coming out of Shame Gershen Kaufman and Lev Raphael expose the role shame has come to play in gay and lesbian lives. Rarely discussed but vastly important, shame powerfully shapes each individual’s development of self-esteem, identity, and intimacy—three areas in which gay men and lesbians have been extremely vulnerable to the crippling effects of shame. Tracing the historical and cultural sources of gay shame, Kaufman and Raphael reveal how gay men and lesbians have internalized shame, resulting in self-loathing and destructive behaviors.

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All, Spirituality & Philosphy, Mental Health Kristi Spagnuolo All, Spirituality & Philosphy, Mental Health Kristi Spagnuolo

Conscious Dreaming by Robert Moss

Conscious Dreaming shows you how to use your dreams to understand your past, shape your future, get in touch with your deepest desires, and be guided by your higher self. Author Robert Moss explains how to apply shamanic dreamwork techniques, most notably from Australian Aboriginal and Native American traditions, to the challenges of modern life and embark on dream journeys. Moss's methods are easy, effective, and entertaining, animated by his skillful retelling of his own dreams and those of his students—and the dreams' often dramatic insights and outcomes.

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Motherless Daughter: The Legacy of Loss by Hope Edelman

Although a mother's mortality is inevitable no book has discussed the profound lasting and far-reaching effects of this loss until Motherless Daughters, which became an instant classic. More than twenty years later, it is still the go-to book that women of all ages look to for comfort, help, and understanding when their mother dies.

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